I've got to teach my pole classes til today at 11:00am
it's 5:58 so I got like twenty minutes to bang out this email.
Last night I had the pleasure of learning a few lessons about money and wealth
There is so much more to wealth than what we see right now.
So much more than $20k months, $100k months...
When I was listening to these people talk about money, I was thinking...
"I need to get over myself and realize that there is way more money out there and the way these people
are talking about money, it's as if, getting $100MM is rather easy..."
I know you're thinking, "Who the hell am I hanging out with?"
I know right.
I thought about it some more.
Why do we make money out to be so hard to earn, hard to receive, hard to believe we can have?
These people were talking about money as if you had way too much money and you needed to figure out the best
and smartest ways to place in areas that would not only grow it but create legacies for your family...
Which reminded me of my grandfather.
It was quite interesting to listen to these men talk about the IRS in such a way that though it sounded a bit scary
made making money seem almost...mechanical.
Almost like if you didn't make money, you were kinda foolish.
Like dare I say, stupid even?
No, they were not saying people are stupid for not making money...it was more the way they were talking about money
that made it seem so easy to make $100MM, that when you think about making $20k months...it sort of seemed ridiculous...
One of them mentioned the word, "Mindset"
He kept saying "mindset, mindset, mindset"
I had just listened to a sermon about when you are around people that are at a higher level than you are...SHUT YOUR MOUTH.
I think God was saying that to me in the sense of, "SHUT YOUR MOUTH SO YOU CAN LISTEN..."
I remembered when I went to visit my grandfather's law firm after he had passed away,
I was invited into a room where thirty lawyers walked in and shook my hand and said they were indebited to my grandfather.
They mentioned how he had helped them make millions of dollars.
They mentioned he would go to colleges and recruit lawyers...
and they said, "Your grandfather was different than most lawyers who owned firms...you'd think that lawyers would need an english degree or something like that..."
"Your grandfather wanted them to have accounting degrees and experience with tax law..."
I remember sitting there thinking, "Eh, granddaddy was always so boring, why the hell was he interested in taxes?"
Sitting there last night, I realized my granddaddy was interested in taxes in all areas of his law firm that he had founded
because he was thinking about his desire to save money
which is the reason, I was able to basically sit around in my twenties and study mindset obsessively for an entire decade without working...
why my father retired at 45 years old
why my aunts and uncles and dad were millionaires by the age of thirty through their inheritance....
I realized my grandfather, though he may have been cold...was an incredible money manager.
Genius at it actually.
It was almost like my grandfather was speaking to me on a deeper level weirdly.
I have been able to connect to him through building this business...
I've been able to understand him a bit better through growing my business
I've cried hours worth of mindset work because of my desire to "prove" myself to be successful in arts and dance.
For some reason, after years of hearing my mom talk about how my grandfather was mean with his money...
And fyi, the most successful men, like billion dollar earners who have worked with my grandfather have said the man was a raging asshole... which is the type to be attracted to if you consider a husband.
I had a deep sense of appreciation for my grandfather last night.
Because money managing is a bitch.
and I never got why his house was the smallest house in the posh neighborhood.
and I never got why he had very modest types of cars
and I never got why his house hadn't been re done in thirty years...
If he was so wealthy, why the hell didn't he show it?
I've had trouble believing and trusting in my ability to handle my money well...
I've thought I was irresponsible.
My mother was notorious for over spending.
Her family was the "new money"
where they spent money.
They had the private jets.
My mom had designer outfits that were so perfectly put together that even her pens matched her outfits.
And I heard her interpretation of money and what she thought of other grandfather's money....
He was mean to my mom and aunts
but...he was protective over his sons.
And apparently protective of his money.
Again, good money manager.
Brilliant money manager.
So I thought last night and I think as I write this....
"Maybe, actually, instead of thinking I'm decent at managing my money...maybe I might be great at it...
Maybe granddaddy can rub off on me...maybe I could let spirit move me into receiving that part of my heritage..."
I wanted to race home and write out all of my numbers, where they had come from in earnings and where they were going in spending...
and what I needed to do to put together a tasteful budget...I hated the word, "budget" because it felt like I was broke.
but...if it's for this reason, then I'm all for it.
Did I mention I loved math as a kid?
I liked numbers....
oooooooh, what if I could start to enjoy playing with my own numbers in my own bank account...
and that would rub off on my money because what we focus on...
MINDSET EXERCISE FOR INSTANT MONEY MANIFESTING:
1. Go look at your bank account.
2. check at what you spent this past month
3. check at what you earned.
4. count it up.
5. and write down your internal monologue about it all
6. remember that your thoughts create your reality
7. recognize you can stop whining about your financial situation if you change your thoughts
8. create a new way to think about your finances in a way that is a teeny tiny shift from the way you are thinking now...
If I haven't told you to look at your money then you need to...
to my grandfather...
I know you weren't into the "showing emotion thing"
But I'm deeply honored to have been your favorite grandchild.
I hope you show me more of what money is like and how to handle it the best way.
Thank you for being a brilliant money manager
And thank you for giving me the gifts I have had to experience the legacy you've left.
I appreciate you.
Where ever you are.
all my love,
your favorite granddaughter.
and GO LOOK AT YOUR MONEY LADY!!!!